We understand that having an abusive partner who is getting help can be a big factor in whether you stay in the relationship, or return when you might have decided to separate.

We also know that, in some cases, men who are getting help, deny, minimise or justify their abusive behaviour and some make false claims to their partners about their attendance or their counsellor’s recommendations. The safety of women in abusive relationships is always our first concern. That is why we have set up a Women’s Service. We will have regular contact with you, either by telephone or in person, and can offer the following:

• assessing your risk
• gauge your partner’s commitment to changing
• provide you with information about legal and support services
• offer counselling
• discuss the speed and likelihood of your partner changing

If you would like our help please call us on 01482 613 403 between 10am and 5pm.
If you are in immediate danger please phone 999.

Alternatively if you want to speak to somebody about the violence and abuse you are experiencing, please contact one of the following organisations:

Hull Domestic Abuse Partnership 01482 318759
Domestic Violence Unit - Police 01482 318754
Women’s Aid Helpline 01482 446099
If none of these are available you can contact the 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

If you want to phone but don’t want the number to register on your bill, try calling from a public phone box or using a friend’s phone to call.

Keeping yourself safe online.
If you're worried about someone knowing you have visited this website please read the following safety information.

The best way to be completely sure you’re not being tracked online, is to access the internet at a local library, an internet cafe, friend's house or at work.

Abusers can look at the history of sites you've visited.
As a rule, internet browsers will save certain information as you surf the internet. This includes images from websites visited, words entered into search engines and a trail ('history') that reveals the sites you have visited. Below are instructions to minimise the chances of someone finding out that you have visited this website.

Warning about deleting cookies and address histories. There is a risk involved in removing data from your computer. For instance, if your partner uses online banking and has a saved password, then if you clear the cookies on your PC, your partner will realise you've done so, because their password will no longer be saved.  Also, your partner may notice if the address history on the PC has been cleared, and this may raise suspicion.

How do I work out which browser I'm using?
If you do not know the type of browser you are using, click on Help on the toolbar at the top of the browser screen. A drop down menu will appear, the last entry will say About Internet Explorer, About Mozilla Firefox, or something similar. The entry refers to which browser type you are using - you should then refer to the relevant instructions below.

Instructions on how to delete history & cache from your PC.

Internet Explorer 6
Click on the Tools menu and select Internet Options. On the General page, under Temporary Internet Files, click on Delete Cookies and then OK. Click on Delete Files, put a tick in the box labelled Delete all offline content and click OK. Under History, click on Clear History and then OK. Now look at the top of the window and click on the Content tab, select AutoComplete and finally, Clear Forms.

Internet Explorer 7
Click on the Tools menu and select Internet Options. In the General page under Browser History, select the Delete button. Either select and Delete each section: Temporary internet files; Cookies, History; Forms data and Passwords; or select the Delete all button at the bottom to clear everything.

Firefox 1  (NOT / Netscape)
Click on Tools and then Options, then click on Privacy. Click on the Clear button next to History; Saved Form Information; Cookies and Cache. Firefox 2
Click on Tools and then Options, then click on Privacy. At private data select settings, ensure that all boxes have been selected and then click on Clear Now.

Netscape 7
Click on the Edit menu and select Preferences.  In the left pane, expand History then in the right area click Clear History.  Next, expand Privacy and Security and select Cookies then on the button Manage Stored Cookies and in the new dialog box click Remove All Cookies.  Then repeat similar for Forms and the Manage Stored Form Data button and the same for Passwords and the Manage Stored Passwords button.  Additionally, you may Manage Forms, Cookies and Passwords individually from the Tools menu - but not the temporary page Cache files.

Click on Tools and then Preferences. Click on the Advanced tab and then the History section on the left-hand side. Click the Clear button to the right of Addresses and the Empty Now button to the right of Disk cache. Opera does not have an easy way to clear all Cookies.

Safari (often used on Apple Macs)
Resetting Safari clears the history, empties the cache, clears the Downloads window, and removes all cookies. It also removes any saved user names and passwords or other AutoFill data and clears Google/Yahoo search entries. To do this go to the Safari menu at top left hand screen. Choose Reset Safari, and click Reset.

Deleting your browsing history
Internet browsers also keep a record of all the web pages you visit. This is known as a 'history'. To delete history for Internet Explorer and Netscape/Firefox hold down the Ctrl key on the keyboard, then press the H key (Crtl, Alt and H for Opera). Find any entries that say www.strengthtochange.org.uk, right click and choose "Delete". For Safari, select History at top of the screen and choose "Clear History"

Toolbars such as Google, AOL and Yahoo keep a record of the search words you have typed into the toolbar search box. In order to erase all the search words you have typed in, you will need to check the individual instructions for each type of toolbar. For example, for the Google toolbar all you need to do is click on the Google icon, and choose "Clear Search History".